What a busy time since I changed to my new job. Need to get use to the new environment, but thanks god for his grace and mercy, I have been go through 11 days of this month. Start to get use to it. Actually sale coordinator got lot's of thing's to do one… somehow need to rearrange the document in the office so that it can be more systematic. Well, the people in the office is friendly, as well as the director, the director is a strong ladies.

    Being in the new working environment, need to spend lot's of time to get use to the place, fear of even doing lot's of thing's a making every decision. That makes me don't even have the time and mood to even continue to read the book that I have just brought.

    When I always in the bad mood, or when I am lost direction, somehow God will always send someone or some of his word to me before I even ask(pray) for his help :-p . This time he sent a message to me, is today (11 august 2007) RBC daily bread quiet time message. It written: Fears will come, but we are assured that Jesus is always a light in the darkness. The scripture of the day is John 6:15-21, "Jesus walk on Water". A lot of Christian may read through this part, even for me. But today it's really different when I read this. I can really felt the true meaning of "when you fear, call In the name of Jesus" and your fear will calmed, like the fear of the disciple as well as the sea.

    Thanks to the Lord for his kindness each time he provide even before I ask, because I believe in him first. Thanks to the Lord. Amen!!!

    Next thing's is continue to read the book. After reading one chapter, will share it here.

Men's Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus: Men's go to Their Caves and Women Talk

   When the first I look at this topic "Men's go to their Caves and Women's Talk", the first thing's it comes to my mind is Women created trouble when men's is not in "peace mood"... :-( sorry to the women who read this blog. But at my point of view is when guy's is not in peace, women is always the person who try to comfort the Men..hehe... :-) , but according to this chapter after i read it, is more like Men's need to know how to submit to the women's first before the women can comfort the men... :-( .

    Well, what i have learn when a women is talking about their problem, they don't expect the men's to give solution.... it's written :"when a Venusian becomes upset or is stressed by her day, to find relief, she seeks out someone she trusts and then talk in great detail about the problems of the day. when Venusians share Feelings of being overwhelmed, they suddenly feel better. This is the Venusian way.". so when men's can't really submit to women, they will always quarrel, usualy this will be the conversation:
1) when she says" You don't listen," he says"what do yo mean i don't listen. I can tell you everything you  said." OR
2) When she says "i feel like you are not even here," he say "What do you mean I'm not here? Of course I am here. Don't you see my body?" OR
3) when she say "You don't care about me," he says "Of course I care about you. Why do you think i am trying to solve this problem?"
    To avoid this problem, men's must understand one principle "Women will appreciate when men just listens.". so this is the summary, all mens please remember THIS: PLEASE REALIZED THAT EVEN WHEN MEN FELTS THEY WERE BEING ATTACKED, BLAMED, OR CRITICIZED BY THE WOMEN IT WAS ONLY TEMPORARY; SOON WOMEN WOULD SUDDENLY FEEL BETTER AND BE VERY APPRECIATIVE AND ACCEPTING. ONCE A WOMEN FEELS HEARD SHE STOPS DWELLING ON HER PROBLEM AND BECOMES POSITIVE. WITH THIS AWARENESS, A MEN'S WAS ABLE TO LISTEN WITHOUT FEELING RESPONSIBLE FOR SOLVING ALL HER PROBLEMS. "END" (Please post some comment)

Today, I start reading an old book "Men's are from mars, Women are from Venus". Because my friend's share with me (in honest heart), I need to learn how to communicate with opposite sex, so it will beneficial me even in the future.

 

Because shortage of time, I decided to finish the introduction only. From the introduction, I finally understand the meaning of the book title "Men's are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Simple is means the language from the heart of both opposite sex is different, so when both of them speak and think in different language which other opposite couldn't understand, it will have conflict. And so lot's of relationship won't last long.

 

From the introduction, it's written that need to have an open heart when reading this book, because it will be very real, and when the reader's don't admit their mistake when they read it, it is meaningless. Aiyo!!! I think I going to be hit's by lot's of point. Share with you all next time when I finish the first chapter.

After reading the first 2 chapter of this book(Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) i finally found out that girl's are more depend on feeling, there no need any advise from opposite sex, but rather they just want them to "listen" so they can "empty" their emotion. This is a guideline that Man shouldn't mention any one of the sentence below to Women: "You shouldn't worry so much"; "But that is not what i said"; "it's no such big deal"; "OK, I'm sorry. Now can we just forget it"; "why don't you just do it"; "But we do talk"; "You shouldn't feel hurt, that's not what i meant"; "So what are you trying to say?"; "But you shouldn't feel that way"; "how can you say that? Last week i spent the whole day with you. We had a great time."; "OK, then just forget it."; "All right, i'll clean up the backyard. Does that make you happy?"; "i got it, this is what you should do" ETC... and lot's more.... Cannot simply say a wrong sentence, it will make their mood more worse...So how to handle them? Use this summary as a guideline (from the book): "Many times a woman just wants to share her feeling about her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering  a steady flow of solutions to her problems." " Women needing empathy more than listening to solution"